Thursday, November 13, 2008

Boldness of Character...Lets not live in fear...

If we look around and analyze, we find that most people succumb to fear. It’s quite natural that we do something when fear dominates us. We have been brought up that way, we cannot complain. Fear is something that freezes our mind. Neither will we be able to think sensibly nor react because of the dominance of fear in our lives.

If we look back to our childhood days, we’ll find that we were all made to do things out of fear. We must have heard more than a thousand threatening “NO”s from our parents even before we were 3 years old. But not every one of us has been brought up that way. Special thanks should be given to those parents who encouraged their kids to do things because they were motivated by it, rather than by inculcating fear in their young minds.

Sometime back I went to my aunt’s house. She had a boy who was almost 3 years old. I still remember what she said when he wanted to climb up the stairs to the first floor of the house; she said “Don’t do it! Or the ghost in the first floor will eat you”. The moment he heard it, he dropped the idea of climbing the stairs, because he was scared of “ghosts”. Just imagine how badly it must have affected his morale. Will it not harm the consciousness of a young boy?

The process of pouring in fear does not end there. All those who are elder than us, conspire to make us do or not do something, by frightening us. “Do this or else I am gonna beat you”. I still remember the teachers who told me “Do the homework or else you are going to stand out the entire day”, and I can recollect the days when I have actually stood outside too, because I was not motivated to do the homework. I’m sure many of you have had similar experiences, haven’t you?

All those homework or assignments never helped me clear any examinations. If someone asked me why I did them, the reply would’ve been “the teacher wants this on time”. The truth is that, if something has to beneficial, we need to put our heart and soul into it. We should be doing it, because we really want to do it.

Death is not the biggest fear we have; our biggest fear is taking the risk to be alive -- the risk to be alive and express what we really are.

We have atleast heard a billion refusals, rejections, NO’s in our entire life till date. This has somehow become a habit. We naturally tend to stop attempting things or doing things in a different way because of the fear of failure. We can’t be blamed, because it’s the society that gave us this habit.

We cannot stop attempting things or try to change the natural course of things. What we can do is to strengthen our minds so that the fear of failure will not overwhelm us. We need to strengthen our character so as to nullify the negative emotions that drive us away from our destination.

It’s a big crime to stop attempting things thinking of the failure. Lets all be motivated by success than failure. Even though we were brought up thinking of failures in our lives, let’s not be stuck with the past habits and ruin our lives.

Your life ahead is going to depend on how you react. Be bold, because you can’t live in fear…

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